How Romans Changed My Family

Last updated: August 11, 2026

How Romans Changed My Family

Years ago, when our family gathered for a Sunday meal, the children finished eating early and scattered into the backyard while the adults lingered at the table. That’s when our oldest son, Josh, then eight or nine, leaned in and whispered a plan: The moment I finished eating, I was going to walk outside and baptize him in the pool. He wanted to follow Jesus, and apparently the whole cousin crew was in on it. 

I wasn’t ready—not because I doubted Josh’s heart, but because I wanted to understand it first. So I told him today wasn’t the day and asked him to break the news to his audience. He did—no complaints, no drama, just quiet obedience. That’s Josh for you. 

What happened later that night is the part I’ve carried with me ever since. 

Once we got home, Josh and I found ourselves alone in the backyard, and he asked me earnestly when I was going to show him how to follow Jesus. He wanted to give his life to Christ. 

As a dad, that stopped me in my tracks. I didn’t grow up in a Christian home, and I’d always hoped my kids would follow Jesus because they met Him, not simply because they were following my expectations. Watching Josh ask the question himself, unprompted, was an answer to a prayer I hadn’t fully voiced. 

So we made a plan. Pajamas on, into bed, and I’d come with my Bible to sit with him. My wife’s response when I told her it might finally be happening: “Okay, I’ll be praying for you.” 

I sat down beside Josh’s bed, opened to Romans 3:23, and started to read. Before I got the words out, Josh reached for the Bible himself. “I can read it, Dad.” He did, and we talked about what it meant—that every one of us is a sinner. 

Then came the question I wasn’t ready for. Josh looked at me and asked what some of my sins were. 

I told him the truth: anger, unkindness, and stealing baseball cards as a teenager. Then I asked about his. He admitted he’d been mean, gotten angry, and lied. Then he added, with all the confidence of an eight-year-old, “But I've never stolen anything.” 

We moved to Romans 6:23. Josh wasn’t sure what “wages” meant, so I compared it to his allowance—what he’s earned. His face brightened until I asked him to read the verse again and notice what those wages actually were. I watched his expression change as he realized sin carried a real penalty. Then he finished the verse: God’s gift is eternal life through Jesus Christ. “So that’s why Jesus died on the cross? He took the punishment I deserved?” “Exactly right,” I told him. 

We turned to Romans 10:9. Josh readily believed Jesus died for him, but the resurrection gave him pause. He asked for a minute to think. 

I sat with him, silently praying. After a few quiet minutes, Josh looked up and said he believed God raised Jesus from the dead. Why? Because Jesus was like the wind—you can’t see Him today, but that doesn’t make Him any less real. You can feel Him and hear Him and see what He can do. 

That was the Holy Spirit doing what I couldn’t. We prayed together, and Josh gave his life to Christ that night—then promptly insisted we wake his little sister to share the news, because ten o’clock was no time to keep good news quiet. 

Those core truths about sin, salvation, and God’s character laid the solid foundation Josh needed to build a lifetime of faith. And that’s what this year’s Romans study will highlight for even the youngest of our BSF Kids. Being introduced to challenging concepts at an age-appropriate level allows children to discover that Romans is not just for adults; Romans is for them too.  

For Teens 

As our kids grew into teenagers, I watched God build on the foundation He had laid years before. New questions emerged. What is my identity? Do I have a purpose? How do I navigate relationships? What does it really mean to follow Christ? Time and again, we found ourselves returning to the book of Romans for answers. 

That’s what students will discover in this year’s BSF Students program. Romans speaks directly to the questions teens are asking, helping them understand who God is, who they are in Christ, and how the gospel shapes every part of life. Whether they’re studying Romans for the first time or continuing to grow in their faith, they’ll find God’s truth meets them right where they are. 

For Parents 

Romans has held a special place in our family ever since. Its truths aren’t too small for a child to grasp, and—this is the part I’ve come to treasure most—they aren’t too big for a parent to need again and again. If you’re walking a son or daughter toward faith, don’t be afraid of their questions, even the ones that catch you off guard. Answer honestly. Then get out of the way and let the Spirit work through the book of Romans to do what only He can. 

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Chip Dickens

Chip Dickens

Dr. Chip Dickens serves as the Chief Church and Community Engagement Officer at BSF. He is a pastor and professor and has served on the faculty of Dallas Theological Seminary and Biola University. He and his wife, Rebecca, have two adult children.
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    Erma on August 14, 2026 03:49 PM

    I’m 85 years and I remember at the age of 10 years old , I received Christ as my Savior and baptized in the Mississippi River in St. Louis , MO.

    Lisa on August 14, 2026 03:11 PM

    I’ve heard of BSF but never attended. I’m excited. I’ve been a believer for decades and have felt called to learn and mature in my walk

    kim on August 14, 2026 01:51 PM

    loved

    Sara on August 14, 2026 01:48 PM

    Thanks for the sincere testimony., pastor Dickens. Good example that Romans could be used even to young people. The Holy Spirit helps us to understand and explain the Lord’s Word.

    Mary Kay on August 14, 2026 12:42 PM

    This story is why I bring my 3 grandboys to bsf. Two of my grandboys at 6 yo gave their life to Christ and I truly believe bsf played a critical role in their faith story. But, I cannot omit the intentionality of their parents who teach and emulate Jesus every day to their sons. I am excited I now get to bring my 3 yo grandson this year to bsf. He is already asking me to pray about his salvation and baptism. Thank you bsf for your love and compassion for the litle ones!

    Rebecca on August 14, 2026 12:32 PM

    Beautiful and so reassuring! That we all could have the faith of this child

    Paul on August 14, 2026 12:18 PM

    I've done Romans before in BSF but this is a very interesting outlook especially for CLs. May God take us and the students through as only He can!!

    Jacqueline on August 14, 2026 11:48 AM

    The last paragraph of the write up on allowing the Holy Spirit do What ONLY He can,is My Takeaway!Very Interesting piece.

    Wycliffe on August 14, 2026 11:03 AM

    I want to christ-like in every thing that I do and say.

    Charsline on August 14, 2026 04:52 AM

    God s faithfulness can never be equated to anyone. All things fall in place in his appointed time

    The free gift of Salvation John 3:16 God so Loved the world that he gave His only begotten Son: that whoever believes in Hin shoujld not perish but have eternal life. on August 14, 2026 03:04 AM

    God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten Son: that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into theworld to judge the world, but that the world should be saved through Him. He who believes in Him is not judged, he who does not believe has been judged already beause he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God

    Julie on August 14, 2026 02:22 AM

    Great story! God is full of grace extended to everyone. Praise & glory to God!

    Barbara on August 14, 2026 12:49 AM

    Absolutely loved Chips personal words about his family and introduction to Salvation .. awsome!!

    Joyce on August 13, 2026 10:55 PM

    Love BSF

    Tassie on August 13, 2026 09:52 PM

    What a sweet message! I felt like I was back in my son’s (and my daughters’) bedroom answering his questions about Jesus all those many years ago. Thank You, Lord, for the memories of these precious moments of when we were introducing our children to You. In Jesus’ Holy Name, Amen

    Joan on August 13, 2026 09:42 PM

    Wow! I am really happy to learn about your son Josh. I cann't wait to see how this BSF year will transform me and my family as we continue to seek Him.

    WEndy on August 13, 2026 09:20 PM

    Enjoyed what you shared Chip.

    May on August 13, 2026 08:36 PM

    It is my greatest pleasure to enroll again with BSF for a study of Romans book. I look forward to this fellowship with great anticipation of and sharing and benefiting from other believers of God's word.

    JUDITH on August 13, 2026 08:28 PM

    All praise and glory to God! His Word never returns void.

    Myra on August 13, 2026 07:37 PM

    Made me cry, and wished I could go back in time and taken the time with my son. Now that he is an adult, he doesn't always listen to me. His name is Robert and I ask for prayers that the LORD will open his eyes and ears.